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When potty training goes backwards
Published by Upcott Studios. Parent reading, not a medical leaflet.
If wetting comes with pain, a strong smell, blood, or they stop weeing, contact your GP. That is a health question, not a training one.
A child who was doing well can suddenly wee on the floor again. The usual triggers are ordinary life: a cold, a new baby, a house move, starting nursery, or a week of broken sleep. The potty did not stop working. The child ran out of spare attention.
Say the pause out loud
For a few days, lower the number of new things. If they are ill, a nappy for the fever days is allowed. Say so: “You are poorly. Nappies today. Potty again when you feel better.” That sentence stops the week becoming a secret failure. Do not hide the potty as a punishment, and do not add a bigger prize on day one to win them back. Pressure is often what the week is already full of.
Keep the words softer than the mess
Short sits, a book, and a calm change of clothes are enough. The sentence you use matters more than any chart. Keep the lines in what to say after an accident. Tell nursery or grandparents the same sentence, so nobody scolds them for a week you have already decided to soften. A note you can send is in nursery and the same words.
Pick the plan up, do not restart from zero
When they are well and the house is boring again, go back to daytime practice. They still know where the bathroom is. If nights were never dry, leave them on the plan in night-time nappies. The Learn page is for ordinary readiness checks, not for illness, and it will not explain a sudden run of accidents.
